Rule #1
The golden rules of cohabitation
To live together peacefully: 10 simple rules for shared housing, flat-sharing and intergenerational cohabitation.
Living together without tension: clear rules from day one
Conflicts in cohabitation often arise from misunderstandings or unclear expectations. These shared living rules help create a respectful framework, whether you are a host, guest, or involved in housing in exchange for services.
Clarity
Simple, shared rules
Trust
A written agreement + dialogue
Peace of mind
Respect for privacy and daily rhythms
The 10 golden rules of cohabitation
Respect, communication and balance for peaceful shared living.
Rule #2
Respect others’ property
Rule #3
Maintain a healthy atmosphere
Rule #4
Inform others of unusual activities
Rule #5
Respect everyone’s lifestyle
Rule #6
Respect privacy
Rule #7
Create shared moments
Rule #8
Talk things through when issues arise
Rule #9
Keep shared spaces pleasant
Rule #10
Be supportive
Safety & trust: best practices
A successful cohabitation relies on transparency and communication. Our safety guide and ethical charter help you build trust.
Frequently Asked Questions
Do I need to pay anything before visiting the accommodation? +
No. You should never be asked to pay anything to “reserve” a place before meeting the host and visiting the accommodation. If someone insists, this is a warning sign—please report the profile immediately.
Which rules should be agreed on from the start? +
From the beginning, it is recommended to agree on simple rules: schedules, shared spaces, guests, quiet hours, cleaning and exit conditions.
A written agreement helps prevent misunderstandings and reassures both parties.
Can I bring someone with me when visiting the accommodation? +
Yes—this is recommended if it helps you feel more comfortable. Just let the host know in advance. Having someone with you can also help you keep perspective.
What should you do in case of conflict or tension? +
It is important to talk about it early and calmly. Often, a simple adjustment of rules or schedule is enough.
If the situation persists, rely on the written agreement and contact ToitChezMoi.
Are profiles verified on ToitChezMoi? +
ToitChezMoi encourages members to complete their profiles and communicate before meeting. Clear descriptions, photos and conversations help you feel more confident before committing.
What should I do if I feel uncomfortable during co-living? +
Feeling uncomfortable is a valid reason to speak up. If you feel safe doing so, start by discussing it with your host or cohabitant. If the situation doesn’t improve, contact ToitChezMoi and review your agreement to understand your exit options.